There are many reasons why Matt and I are almost sure that we will not be having any other children. Among them are: not having enough money, me wanting to get back to work, a family of 4 seems right, me not wanting to be pregnant and breastfeed again (especially as I close in on being 40), fear that another child would upset the family dynamic, concern that the child might have "issues", not being able to go on trips we've been waiting to do, having to work around nursing and naps, confirming my suspicion that another child would turn me into a hassled, short-tempered, lunatic. There are a few good reason to have another baby, but we are leaning ever closer to not expanding our family.
At the top of the list of reasons why not, right now, is that I cannot potty train another kid! I am terrible at it and I can't take the frustration and embarrassment surrounding it. I think I am a pretty decent parent in most areas. Sure, I yell too much. I'm not as patient or as fun as other moms. But my kids go to bed and stay there. They eat decent meals the majority of the time. They can be taken out to restaurants and on trips. They say please and thank-you. They can even go to the grocery store reasonably under control.
But I am now onto my second absolute failure at potty training. I have tried sticker charts; giving her candy or toys; insisting that she sit on the toilet; leaving her alone; putting her in diapers, pull-ups, underwear or nothing; being silly; being mean; NONE OF IT WORKS.
When you look on line for advice it is all the same: wait until they are ready. If one more person gives me the same advice or tells me "no kid goes to college still wearing a diaper" my head is going to explode. Every one of the message boards have parents telling failures like myself to wait it out, they'll do it when they are ready. But then they go on to detail some trick they used. They didn't just let their kid do it. They did something.
She has to be potty trained for the preschool she is attending and quite frankly, she is ready. She just doesn't want to. It isn't all that convenient for her. I will ask her or bribe her or try peer pressure and she will just scream and run away and tell me she doesn't want to.
I know it has to come down to some kind of intervention. A 3 day period of no diapers and all that. Fights and lots of crying. I know I missed my window of opportunity. I should have trained her back when she was more agreeable and not so darn big.
If I ever did have another child I would do just that. Train them early like a good mom. The kind who is successful and doesn't let their kids get into power struggles.
Yeah, but I don't think I'll have that chance.
Thank god. I'm already exhausted.